Typically I post a new podcast episode each Monday, but due to some other projects I’m working on, the next episode will be posted later this week (and it’s a goodie). Hope to share the new projects soon!
I came across 19 Life Lessons from the Dalai Lama a few years ago and have kept them ever since. It’s such wise council and we’d all do well to listen.
- Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
- When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
- Follow the three R’s: Respect for Self, Respect for others, and Responsibility for all your actions.
- Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
- Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
- Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
- When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
- Spend some time alone every day.
- Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
- Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
- Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
- A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
- In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
- Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
- Be gentle with the earth.
- Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
- Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
- Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
- Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
My favorite lesson is #12: “A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.” In a life of uncertainty and turmoil, what each of us needs most (both parent and child) is a solid foundation and that starts at home.
How to Create a Loving Atmosphere
I’m no expert, and our home definitely could use some more love at times, but there are a few things we try to do inside our home to create a loving atmosphere.
- Say Please and Thank You – This is so basic, but foundational. Being respectful and expressing gratitude to one another for even the smallest acts of kindness has a huge impact. And this is something a 2 year old can learn.
- Laugh – I am WAY too serious sometimes. With three kids ages 4 and younger, how serious can life be? Learning to just laugh at some of the mistakes and accidents helps keep the atmosphere light and forgiving.
- Instill Confidence – My kids often ask for help. There’s not much they can do by themselves. But instead of rushing to their side and immediately fixing the problem, my wife and I try to help our kids help themselves. We’ve found that helping them overcome their own problems–and applauding them once they do–is an effective way to show our love.
- Serve Others – Sometimes life gets busy and finding time to think of others just doesn’t happen–unless you schedule it. That’s why we decided to make service our main family activity each Monday night, whether that is making a meal for someone or creating some cards to send to Grandma. We aren’t as consistent as we’d like to be, but having it scheduled has helped us to routinely think of others, which is a powerful way to invite love into the home.
These aren’t earth-shattering ideas and we know lots of families that have a much more loving atmosphere than us, but hopefully these ideas have helped you in some way.
I’d love to hear what YOU do to create a loving atmosphere in the home. Please reply to the newsletter email, or you can send a separate email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
To your success,